When my husband and I started the international adoption process last year, our twins were 15 months old. We applied for approval for one baby (because one would seem easy after twins!) or twins, if they were available (because let’s admit it, that would be cool to have two sets of twins!)
Our agency informed us that they had only seen one set of twins pass through their agency in 30 years so we shouldn’t hold our breath.
Well, fast forward nine months, and our adoption journey has taken a different direction than we anticipated. We have connected with a local family who is due to give birth to boy/girl twins any day and they have agreed to allow us to be the adoptive family! We are thrilled!
With about a month to prepare for our new arrivals, we definitely kicked it into high gear as far as baby stuff goes. Moving our now 2 year olds to twins beds, weeding through their baby stuff (we didn’t get rid of anything), and having a much better idea of what you actually need for two babies. As opposed to last time, when about to give birth to twins as our first children, we had no clue what we actually needed.
What we are doing differently this time around:
- No cutesy bedding: I ended up hating the crib bumpers with our first set of crib bedding, and the sheet did not fit the mattress at all. I had to buy bedding stuff ala carte, then was frustrated that we spent $150 each (so $300 total!) on ultimately crib skirts – the only part of the original super cute, coordinating bedding we used.
- More newborn clothes, and even some preemie stuff: I didn’t have any of that when our first set of twins were born. Everyone said their babies were born and pretty much went straight into 0-3 months…not my 5 pound babies! My mother in law had to buy a few preemie outfits so they would have something to wear. Now I am better prepared: going home outfits are in preemie size!
- Essentials: bottle brushes, gas drops, many swaddles (I know which kind I like now!), hand sanitizer for guests
- Food: I took a day last week and stocked our freezer with a month’s worth of food! I remember after S & K were born, I was too tired to cook! Whenever our friends and family stopped feeding us we ate out all the time, which wasn’t good for our wallets or waistlines. Hopefully being prepared on front end will help with this.
- Positive attitude: Synchronized schedules will save my sanity. Sleep training is worth it. I can’t do it all, so accept help. It will get easier. I will sleep one day again. If I blink, they will be 2. The days are long, but the years are short. People will think I am either crazy or SuperMom – neither of which are true.
All these are lessons I learned through experience with the first set. I feel like it has better prepared me this time around because it’s not someone telling me – I have lived it before!
As we await to meet our babies literally any day now, I still can’t believe we are about to venture into the crazy world of newborn twins. This time, though, throw a couple of 2 year olds in the mix and you’ve got yourself a party!
Jenny, mom to 2-year old boy/girl twins…and soon-to-be newborn boy/girl twins, too!