BG Area Mothers of Multiples

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Time Change Challenges October 25, 2011

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As a mother of twins, my number one piece of advice to new MoMs is to get their babies on a schedule…the SAME schedule.

It was that piece of advice that saved my sanity when the girls were infants, and I’ve continued to be very schedule-oriented since.

With the clock being so central to our lives, the thought of the time change twice a year sends my stomach into knots.  I work so hard to maintain my girls’ schedule, and here Mr. Time decides to upend us by an entire hour!

While I dread changing our clock every few months, [KNOCK ON WOOD!] our girls have always adjusted to the new time within a few days, and it’s never been quite as bad as I rehearsed in my mind.

To help get us thinking about the time change in a couple of weeks, I am posting an excerpt I saw from a sleep specialist, as to how to manage your children’s schedules.

Although the time change officially takes place on a Saturday night, for the child, it actually begins the next evening on Sunday. The parent should stick with the “old time” all day Sunday for the child’s nap. Then on Sunday evening, the parent should move to the “new time” essentially making the child stay up an hour past the usual bedtime. The parent must continue putting the child down at night at normal bedtime for the child to make the adjustment to sleeping in till their usual time. Most children continue waking early for several days, then intermittently for several days. After about 10-14 days most children are back on schedule if the parent is consistent. It will take longer to adjust if the parents intermittently put the child down early.

I’m hoping that if I at least feel like I have a plan of attack, I can save myself some anxiety leading up to the time change on November 6th.  But I’ll still be crossing my fingers and toes for good measure that the transition is a smooth one.

What are your tips for managing the time change?

Mandy, mom to almost-three-year old fraternal twin girls

 

October Meeting Recap: Food Allergies October 17, 2011

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Thank you so much to Amber Hooper, a fellow MoM to four-year old boy/girl twins, and member of FEAST, for talking with us about food allergies during our October meeting.

FEAST is the Food Education Allergy Support Team, a support group for families affected by food allergies.

Amber shared some statistics about the rising prevalence of food allergies in the United States.  Today as many as one in 18 children may be affected.  She also presented a list of the eight most common foods that account for about 90% of food-allergic reactions – milk, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, wheat, soy, fish, and shellfish.

Amber talked about signs of anaphylaxis, and what to do in case of such an emergency.

Finally, Amber discussed what we as parents can do to support families in our community who are dealing with food allergies.  Given the prevalence of food allergies, it’s likely that a neighbor or classmate or teammate may be affected.

It’s important to be aware that some children may require different snacks or treats.  Try to be sensitive to their emotions…Amber stressed how meaningful it is when a fellow parent takes every child’s needs into account.  Amber suggested considering non-food treats for classroom parties, for example.

For more information on food allergies, visit www.foodallergy.org.

The local chapter of FEAST meets the third Tuesday of every month at 6pm at the Medical Center’s Health and Wellness Center in Greenwood Mall.  For more information on the group, visit www.kyfeast.org.

 

Multiple Fun for Halloween October 11, 2011

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After lots of thinking and lots of [online] shopping, I finally decided I’d go the simple route and order a couple of ladybug costumes for our 2 ½-year old girls for Halloween.

I don’t always dress the girls alike on a day-to-day basis, but this will be the girls’ third Halloween, and to date, I’ve gone the “double the cuteness” route.  Two pumpkins, two cheerleaders, and now two ladybugs.

Just for fun, I googled “Halloween costumes for twins”, and there are hundreds of “coordinating” ideas for multiples…

…salt and pepper shakers…peanut butter and jelly…apple and orange…lemon and lime…ketchup and mustard…M&Ms…peas in a pod…lion, tiger, and bear…cat and mouse…crayons…

And the character interactions are limitless, too…Thing 1 and Thing 2…Mickey and Minnie…Batman and Superman…king and queen…princess and dragon… Bert and Ernie…Charlie Brown and Snoopy…Buzz and Woody…

The funniest costume duo I read about was for boy/girl twins…a Mounds and an Almond Joy.  (This was one family’s response to the many questions they got about whether their B/G twins were “identical”…hahaha!!!)

And another one that I thought was comical was “Peace and Quiet”.  I can just envision printed shirts with those words…at least with my two, that would be a walking oxymoron!

Are you planning to coordinate your multiples for Halloween?  Have any fun ideas to share?

Mandy, mom to 2 1/2-year old fraternal twin girls

 

What To Do When Rewards Aren’t Identical October 5, 2011

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Our girls are only 2 ½, so I don’t yet have a personal parenting opinion on the idea of “everyone’s a winner”.

I hope you don’t think I’m heartless when I say that I was raised with the idea that there are winners, and there are runners-up.  There is a whole lot of value in showing up, for sure, but there is only one “first place” in many situations.

Even at eight years old, I know I didn’t value my swim team trophy very much…every team member got one, even the ones of us (ahem) who never won a race, or (hypothetically speaking) didn’t really like getting our faces wet.

I try hard not to compare our girls, and I think I do a pretty good job.  Certainly I don’t think of milestones reached as “wins”, or tumbles down the staircase as “losses”.  Almost three years in, and I’ve never really thought about “trophies”…until now.

Baby A has been wearing underwear for almost six months now, while Baby B remains a very proud diaper-wearer.  I never instituted any type of reward system for A while she was in the throes of training…one of the main reasons being that I didn’t know what I’d do with B.

Over the past few weeks, though, Baby A has been having some accidents.  I don’t think it’s anything physiological; I think she gets too busy playing to make time to go to the bathroom.

Unfortunately (?), she hasn’t seemed bothered by these slip-ups.

I finally decided I should consider some type of reward system.  Over the past several days, Baby A has been earning her choice of a sticker at the end of the day, for each day that she’s stayed dry.  Every morning I let her shop her sticker choices, and she’s been really motivated to add to her collection, proudly displayed on the refrigerator.

I’m trying to gently use this opportunity to encourage B.  “When you start using the potty and wearing underwear, you can earn stickers, too!”  After the first day, she hasn’t exactly fussed, but she does stand on the sidelines, the most pitiful look on her face.

Wow, is this tough.

I don’t want to give B a sticker “just because”, but at times I wish I at least had a certificate of appreciation to give her or something.

How do you handle rewards with your multiples?

Mandy, mom to 2 1/2-year old fraternal twin girls