BG Area Mothers of Multiples

a small glimpse in our unique journey…our real-life journey

Games Kiddos Play March 27, 2012

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I always loved games when I was growing up…but as an only child, I had to wait on Mom or Dad, or the rare play date, to have someone to play with.

 

When we learned we were expecting twins, I know one of my early thoughts was how much fun our children would have playing together.  I remember specifically envisioning our wee ones playing games…how much fun it would be for them (and me!).

 

For our girls’ third birthday, they got a few games, among them, Candyland, my absolute favorite as a little kid.  I could hardly wait to play it with them.

 

A month or so in, I feel like I’m “paying for my raising”, having played countless games of Candyland already.  Our girls really enjoy it, but one is more likely to stay “on task” than the other…she diligently moves her gingerbread man per the rules.  After what seems like every card, she exclaims, “I’m almost to the castle!”  Her sister is more easily distracted, though.  She sometimes moves to the allotted space, but sometimes she’ll try to move to any “blue” square, even halfway across the board.

 

So…while games are starting to be a fixture at our house (Memory is the other favorite right now)…there is quite a bit of refereeing to be done.

 

Still…it’s exciting to see what I hope is the start of some great new play patterns for our girls, and for our family.

 

What games are favorites at your house?  At what age did your kiddos begin to play together?

 

Mandy, mom to three-year old fraternal twin girls

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March Meeting Recap: Twin Panel Discussion March 19, 2012

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We were so pleased to host a twin panel discussion group for our March meeting.  Our panel consisted of 30-year old identical twin girls; and a mother with her 23-year old daughter, half of a boy/girl twin set.

 

We had an open, informal discussion, covering a lot of “standard” material…matching clothes, sharing rooms, classroom dynamics.

 

We also talked about topics such as discipline — recognizing that different techniques might work for different children; and allowing each child to pursue his/her own interests, at least after a certain age.

 

While much of today’s literature stresses the importance of focusing on individuality among multiples (sometimes to the point of being stressful!), I think we all walked away from the meeting feeling encouraged.  At least among our panelists, certainly there was talk about individuality and independence, but the respect for their twinship was also very evident.

 

I think it was really heartwarming to hear about the unique bond that these adults shared with their siblings.

 

A big thank you once again to our panelists for sharing your stories with us!

 

Managing the Time Change March 8, 2012

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As a mother of twins, my number one piece of advice to new MoMs is to get their babies on a schedule…the SAME schedule.It was that piece of advice that saved my sanity when the girls were infants, and I’ve continued to be very schedule-oriented since.

With the clock being so central to our lives, the thought of the time change twice a year sends my stomach into knots.  While I dread changing our clock every few months, [KNOCK ON WOOD!] our girls have always adjusted to the new time within a few days, and it’s never been quite as bad as I rehearsed in my mind.

I am posting an excerpt I read from a sleep specialist, as to how to manage your children’s schedules through the time change.

 

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In the spring, the clock is moved forward an hour, so we lose an hour.  For the adult and teenager, this typically means losing an hour of sleep.  When we get up on Monday morning at 6am, we feel tired because  our internal clock says it is 5am.  It can take some individuals weeks to feel rested again in the morning.

Although the time change officially takes place on a Saturday night, for the child it actually begins the next evening on Sunday.  The parent should stick with the “old time” all day Sunday for the child’s nap.  Then on Sunday evening, the parent should move to the “new time”.

There is good news for the parents of young children who wake too early: often the younger child starts sleeping later in the morning.  For the child who has been going to bed at 7pm and rising at 6am, this is the perfect opportunity for the parent to change the child’s sleep schedule if a 7am rise time is desired.  The parent must be ready, however, right from the first night after the time change: The parent must consistently put the child to bed at 8pm, make the child’s room very dark, and add white noise to the room (if there is a significant noise in the home in the morning from others getting up).

When a child has been going to bed at 8pm and rising at 7am, he is likely to appear wide awake on Sunday night after the time change at 8pm because his internal clock says it is only 7pm.  The parent should consider allowing him to stay up until 8:45 – 9pm for 1 to 3 nights.  During this time, the parent may have to awaken the child in the morning between 7 and 7:30am if the parent wants the child to start going to bed at night again by 8pm.

Most children are back on schedule within 10 – 14 days if the parent is consistent.

 

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Wishing us all a smooth transition over the next week!